Isn’t it so true that we, as moms, can feel like there are so many things that crowd our time and the truth is that we can be as busy as busy allows which is great to get lots of stuff done but a lot of times it can leave us feeling just a little bit depleted by the end of the day, Not just from physical exhaustion of “busy day” but an emotional, and mental depletion as well. — Where to find a little mom-time?
We can also, fill up all our time that’s available doing our work. We keep going and going and going, on the hamster wheel of never-ending chores. Is the house ever really clean with kids running around? No, you could “work” behind them all day cleaning up.
Obviously, we need our grip of emotional and mental parts or else ____________________ (Eek!)
Entering into — making a little time for ourselves to work on projects that we love to do! (I love this topic so much I took a small blogging hiatus to create an online course about it! Check it out here (if you like 🙂 )
While working on our projects, we forgot about any mini-crisis (?!) we’ve had during the day.
We forget about the mega challenges up ahead. We forgot about the to-do list that is never-ending. We forget about everything else around us except for the one thing that we are doing on our project, side hustle, or hobby.
We forgot about the to-do list that is never-ending. We forget about everything else around us except for the one thing that we are doing on our project, side hustle, or hobby.
We forget about everything else around us except for the one thing that we are doing — our project, side hustle, or hobby.
While working on our side projects our mind clears of all our responsibilities and all of the titles that we are called in our day to day; mom chef, nurse, chaffer etc…
We even lose the title “mom” when doing our projects.
We are simply “ME”.
For introverts and extroverts alike — this is a beautiful way that we as Mom’s, can fill ourselves up. Depending on what stage of life we are at this can be easier obviously than other times.
I’m in the little kids’ stage right now. I find that the time that I do have to work on my projects are typically15mins pieces here and there. But I know that this is us for right now, and I’ll TAKE my 15mins here and there! (thank-you!)
So whether you are in little kids stage, or whether you’re in empty nest stage — How do we find a little mom time?
#1. You need to know what you’re working on
Isn’t it so true that we as mom’s try to multitask ourselves literally in circles!
A little bit here. A little bit there. I find that so far was doing this
Little bit there. I find that so far was doing this
This is what I was doing this summer. Working 10 minutes here on a project then 10 minutes on a different project. Which with the little kiddos, this is perfectly normal. But it was my constant switching that was frustrating. Because by the time I set up and started the next project, my 10mins were up. And switch and switch and switch.
And switch and switch and switch.
It got to the point that I had a list of six different projects I wanted to do and accomplish every single day.
Each of these jobs I listed as top priority. My goal was to work 10 minutes on each job — every day — which meant I needed to find at least an “hour” each day to work on my projects.
You can see how this could quickly become a problem especially with five little kids at home during the summer time.
Problem — I didn’t really know what I needed to be working on.
So feeling panicky, overwhelmed, and exhausted. I came up with a system to lay out all my projects, slow myself down, and give myself permission to take time.
How to figure out what you should work on first?!
-It’s a little bit morbid, but use the question of “If I died tomorrow, what is the one thing that I would want to have finished today?”
Figuring out which #ONE project to start at, quickly became my top priority 🙂 While making project lists, it quickly became apparent that there were a few things that would jump out consistently to the top.
Next step was to pick out one top project to start with.
One to work on.
That way I can finish one.
#2. Look through your day calendar to find leftover time
We are never in a million years going to find leftover time!
We are, in fact, going to make leftover time.
So a good way to do this is to look through your calendar — your day calendar. And anytime during the day that you have a quiet chunk of time, mark it down. If you’re at home with little kids — anytime’s the kids that are napping, is a good time!
If you’re at home with little kids — anytime the kids that are napping, is a good time!
I find this can be really tricky with little babies in the house. It seems to be 10 minutes here or there that you do have blocked off to work.
Studies show that if you work in batches, focusing on one job for about a 1.5hrs then get up and take a quick break — you are more productive. Working in batches also requires that you do one task at a time. More on batching explained — click here!
Example: So if you’re a painter — you would sit down and just paint for that chunk of time. You’d leave the layout, sketching, and prep work, for another time.
#3. Use your time wisely.
So when you have those minutes in the day, (yep – even with little babies) Make sure that you use the time you do have, very very efficiently.
This is so true, ain’t it?!
When focusing on only one job we minimize transition times. Studies also show that it if you keep switching from jobs you lose anywhere from 5 to 20 minutes just to focus and get going on your new job.
Which is why working in blocks or batches is so important. It restricts your transition time.
When you get a chance to have a little mom time, try to focus in quickly on what you are working on or creating. If you have your area prepped and ready to go – for “go-time” – all the better for you to hit the ground running in your chunk of time set aside for just your project!
#4. Why a little mom time so important.
It’s so important that we find a little mom time because as caretakers we spend a lot of our time giving. ( which is great!). But the risk with constant caretaking is mental and emotional depletion.
I find creative outlets, especially in this little kids stage of life, huge for good mental health. Creative outlets are something you can think about during the day. Something that you can enjoy to plan, and anticipate in the free hour you have from your leftover time to work on your project that you have lined up.
Mentally planning, picking your colors while you’re picking up toys — is a great mental health exercise — to plan out your project or the next step instead of worrying about the kids or family or friends or instead or trying to figure out what’s for supper (again).
This it’s just a really beautiful, easy, economic, and productive way for moms to take a little time to keep themselves healthy — emotionally and mentally.
#5. Where to find a little mom time can be a little bit tricky
Sometimes it can take a little time to even make a plan.
That’s why I had to sit down and write out this course “Making Time for Mom.” I needed it for myself!
In it I, go through in 7 days, how moms can find some leftover time. Then using their dreams, their top priorities, — to make a solid plan that they can work on. Step by Step. You don’t have to worry about the plan (how, where, when – to find a little mom time to work on your projects) or how organizing your projects, you just have to think about the execution. Remembering that you owe to yourself to make a little mom time.
Where to find a little Mom time is up to you –
1)Could wake up a little earlier to find an extra hour that you could have, to do something that you love?
2)If you’re a night owl can you go to bed an hour later and spend that hour that you’re very creative on something that you love to do?
3)What can you give up for a little mom time? (binge-watching “Once Upon a Time” on Netflicks 😉 )
4)If you have little kids — defining what you will/won’t do with them around is a great place to start. Example: I’ve read about a writer who had the self-imposed rules – #1 – wouldn’t write when the kids were in the house #2 – wouldn’t write when the kids were in the house awake.
5)What it is that you are willing to push away to make a little mom time?
6)What are you willing to give up, sacrifice, or say no too? Social engagements? Extended family birthday parties? If you have little kids at home will you hire a babysitter so you could have
7)If you have little kids at home will you hire a babysitter so you could have a couple hours free on Saturday?
Where can you find and take back a little mom time?
Let me know in the chat below!
By Sharon Schuler